Traditionally, the words “will you marry me” are included in a marriage proposal. Is that enough? Do those four words encompass the feelings of the moment when a man shares his desire to marry? Though many people would want to say more, knowing what to say when you propose marriage can cause anxiety and stress.
There is a lot of pressure on making a marriage proposal perfect. The perfect ring, the perfect atmosphere, the perfect timing are all common considerations when planning a marriage proposal. Not knowing what to say when proposing increases the pressure of the moment that should be enjoyable.
The focus of the marriage proposal should be on being honestly romantic rather than perfect. One often quoted marriage proposal from a movie is the proposal between Richard Gere and Julia Roberts in The Runaway Bride. In addition to being romantic, the proposal is honest. “I guarantee that we’ll have tough times. And, I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us will want to get out. But, I also guarantee that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life because I know in my heart, you’re the only one for me.”
Not that people should quote from a movie for a marriage proposal, but this quote shows that a good proposal is sincere. Putting feelings into words can be extremely difficult for many people. However, taking time to write down why you want to get married can help the person look at their words and craft a sincere, honest, and romantic marriage proposal.
Quotes of love poems or songs are not necessary. A marriage proposal needs to be personal. Researching the right thing to say only needs to be done in the person’s memory and heart, not on the computer or through books of poetry. If there is a song or poem that has special meaning to the couple, the man may want to include a quote from it. Otherwise, heartfelt words are better than a quote from another source.
Not all successful proposals are staged events with perfect lighting, food, wine, and just the right moment. Some of the most romantic and memorable marriage proposals are spontaneous pledges of undying love and devotion. The couple may get caught up in the moment and soon a proposal is accepted. The fact that such unplanned, ringless proposals can be romantic, memorable events proves that the proposal does not have to be fairy-tale perfect to be considered a perfect proposal.
Passionately saying: I love my wife